Just a thought…
When I was younger I used to think that love conquers all, and racial differences between two people don’t matter when they’re in love. However, over time, my experiences, as well as my friends’ and relatives’, taught me that love isn’t enough. There are so many hurdles a couple should go through just to stay together, much more than couples of the same race go through. It’s hard enough keeping the relationship intact, but the added burden of differing cultures–sometimes couples just decide to give up to make things easier all around.
I personally think it is racism.
It is racism. It’s true culture is important but too often it is used a smokescreen for racism.
I’m not at all for it, and luckily, my parents aren’t that way, but a couple should understand that, in reality, love does not conquer all, much as it would be great that it does. And if they make it, well, good for them!
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By: Renato de Trindade on October 13, 2007
at 8:44 pm
Hey thanks so much, Renato. ^__^
By: Briar Rose on October 14, 2007
at 1:26 am
hi rose
solid. =)
Racism is a little harsh. For couples, I guess not having the same culture would mean less chances of having things in common…ie less chances of enjoying the same things.
but if parents are involved then….racism…medyo cguro.
By: zhen on October 26, 2007
at 5:15 am
hah! I totally agree. Ü harsh na kung harsh.
By: Vanessa on January 9, 2008
at 2:03 am
hello rose. I agree that love conquers all, but we rarely stay in love for the whole duration of our relationship, much less our marriage. Its only fair to say that if we build a relationship based on culture its is much more apt to live longer, Ive learned that in all relationships -mainly in asian culture that its not about just two persons rather two families. I guess you would also like to see both families getting along in the future wouldn’t you?
By: cervantezmiguel on January 10, 2009
at 2:58 am
lucky for u that u’re parents are open-minded. i know parents want the best for their children, but when the reason they do not want someone for you is because he or she is not the same race as you, then i believe it’s racism. there’s nothing wrong in preferring your own race, but if they make ways to separate you and impose on what they want (like set you up with someone), it’s really unfair. for me, family matters, but does it have to come to a point wherein you have to choose between family and personal happiness?
By: t0rmented on May 7, 2009
at 11:30 pm
Hi. Here are my thoughts on Chinese and Filipino relationships.
http://www.inorenzolee.com/why-discourage-chinese-filipino-relationships/
By: inorenzolee on August 13, 2009
at 9:05 am
Hello. I am male. Pure Filipino. I had a Fil – Chinese girlfriend. We were happy, but there was always this seed of doubt and skepticism and the feeling that it won’t last. One day, bigla na lang bawal na lahat. Magkita, mag txt, call and everything.
I am devastated. Still is now.
By: splitzapper on October 23, 2009
at 4:42 am
Hey :]
I’ve been in a relationship with a chinese guy for 3 years, and we’re really happy. I’m not sure if this necessarily applies to everyone. But it might be because we’re american so our ethnic cultures aren’t really a huge factor. I’ve found that asians here just tend to group together, and although our individual ethnic cultures are pretty different, there’s a huge difference between asian and asian-american.
But I’m not really sure where you are, so if you’re here in the US, I’d be kinda surprised that the chinese filipino thing is an issue. But maybe it is for some?
By: rawrshell on November 27, 2009
at 5:55 pm